Can I go to my friend’s church, mosque or temple?

Usually, yes. Most places of worship welcome visitors, and going with a friend is the easiest way. Ask your friend what to expect, and check with your parents first. Dress a little nicer and more covered than usual. You don’t have to pray or sing if you don’t believe it. Sitting quietly and watching is respectful.

1 · MindWhat people believe, and how they know

Every place does things a little differently. In many mosques, gurdwaras (Sikh temples) and Hindu temples, people take their shoes off at the door. In a gurdwara, everyone covers their head, and scarves are often there to borrow. Many mosques ask women to cover their hair. Churches vary a lot. Your friend is the best guide.

2 · HeartWhat it feels like

It’s normal to feel nervous. You don’t know when to stand, sit or stay quiet. Your friend probably felt the same the first time they went somewhere new.

For your friend, inviting you is a big deal. It’s like inviting you into their family’s living room.

Going with a friend is the whole point. You’re not there to evaluate it. You’re there because someone who trusts you said come.Neighbor Radio

3 · HandsHow to be a good neighbor

Before you go, ask: “What should I wear? Do I take my shoes off? Is there anything I shouldn’t do?” When you’re there, follow your friend’s lead. Afterward, say thank you, and ask what something you saw meant. Many places share a meal after. Say yes if you can.

This weekIf a friend invites you, ask them three questions before you go, and one after.

Plain wordsWhat do these words mean?

Mosque

A Muslim place of prayer. In Arabic, a masjid.

Gurdwara

A Sikh house of worship. The name means “door to the Guru.”

Langar

The free community kitchen at every gurdwara. Anyone may eat, and everyone sits together.

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Four questions to take with you

From Jesus' story of the Good Samaritan, about the stranger who stopped to help. We call it the Samaritan Test.

1. Did they see? Or look right past?
2. Did they stop? Even when it was inconvenient?
3. Did it cost them? Time, money, comfort, reputation?
4. Did they treat the person like a person? Not like a label?

Try it on: when someone invites you into their world, do you go in curious or go in judging?

Quick questions

Will they try to convert me?

Usually not. If anyone pushes, you can say “I’m just here with my friend” and leave it there.

Do I have to eat the food?

No, but it’s a kind thing to try. Langar, the free meal at a gurdwara, is open to everyone.